"No Tone Tags Please!"
Sometimes, people don't want tone tags to be used on them. This is completely valid, and it's easy to accommodate this need.
"Why?"
This could be because:
Tone tags can confuse and hinder people's understanding. Some readers may become more confused about the intent of a message if a tone tag is added. For other people, it makes it harder to read. Dyslexics may not be able to understand it at all! (Sometimes the better idea is to word exactly what you mean and how you mean it.)
It could be a preference. This could be for a number of reasons. Some people may not like them, and some people may just found them unhelpful.
It can be found as condecending. Not every neurodivergent person has trouble telling tone, and other people may find tonetags to be infantilizing. Assuming that all nuerodivergent people needs help telling tone is very stereotypical and rude.
...and many more reasons.
"Are they saying that tone tags are bad?"
Absolutely not!Tone tags are a great assessability tool for those who need and/or prefer them! Like other assessability tools, some people may not find them helpful, and that's completely valid. Every person's needs and accommodations are different.
"How should I react?"
Apologize and do not use tone tags while talking to that person. They are not stopping you from using tone tags with other people, this is only for themselves.Do not continue to use tone tags on them after they have told you not to use them.
Common Excuses for Invalidation:
"It's a public form/server!" - This can come off as assuming that everyone needs a tone tag or has trouble telling tone. It is not that hard to exclude tone tags while replying to a specific person.
"I have trouble telling my own tone!" - Tone tags are used to help other people interpret tone and not your own. How would you know what tone tag to use if you don't know your own tone?
"It's for my own comfort!" - If you are not able to accommodate to someone requesting not using tone tags on them, it would be better to not interact with them. An interaction requires both people to be comfortable. Again, they are not telling you to completely stop the use of tone tags.
disclaimer: this is from my own personal experience.
Thank you for reading!
Remember, it's completely okay if a person doesn't want tone tags to be used on them.A popular carrd about tone tags even mentions this:"Not all neurodivergent people need, or even want tone indicators...Every person is different."from toneindicators.carrd.coThis is like every other boundary/preference, and it's expected of it to be respected!
Creators Note:I decided to make this carrd to spread awareness and information about people that don't prefer tone tags. I took inspiration from another carrd that covers the same topic.notonetags.carrd.coThis carrd (the one you're on) comes from more from a personal point of view. I have autism myself and I don't have a lot of trouble telling tone, which is why I don't want people to use tone tags on me.Once again, thank you for reading and make sure to spread the word.